Thursday, May 03, 2007

Girl Crush

Listening to the radio this morning on my way into work, the dj's were talking about how Blake and Chris seem to have a little man love going on. Apparently Chris has said that he'd "go home" for Blake. And they really seem to have quite the tight friendship going on. The dj's were saying it's pretty much a BFF, teenage girl thing they got going. This got me thinking…

About girl crushes.

Girl Crush
Feelings of admiration and adoration which a girl has for another girl, without wanting to shag said girl. A nonsexual attraction, usually based on veneration at some level.

Related to boy crush.
(urbandictionary.com)

In college, there was this one girl who I referred to as my "girl crush." She was this really tall girl, long brown hair. Whenever I saw her, she'd be laughing and smiling. I always saw her seeming happy and positive. This girl knew how to have fun, and she was also intelligent. She could pound beers with the rest of us, yet still make it to her 8am class looking sassy and refreshed. She had a core group of friends that she hung with, and whether it was a class we had together, or running into each other at the gym, she was always real friendly. Nice. Never not smiling. And we didn't even really know each other. She was just a friendly, warm person. And I had a girl crush on her.

So this was all in a very non sexual type way, obviously. Clearly I'm
wicked hot for very much into the male gender. So women have girl crushes. I wonder, do men understand this? Seems to me when I've mentioned a girl crush to a guy friend before, they go wild with makeout, porno wild, sexual fantasies. Asking questions of whether I've ever madeout with a girl? And would I? Do I like boobs? And have you and your roommate ever kissed?

But it's not about that. A girl crush, to me, it's not about that kinda thing at all. Yes, if I was to go for a girl, I'd probably pick a girl crush of mine. Usually they exude a vibe I'd be into, if I was, into girls. To me, a girl crush is based on a level of attraction, a vibe they give off. Usually my girl crushes demonstrate a sense of confidence, intelligence, beauty, and kindness. And it's about the way a girl presents herself. Carries herself. For me, she's classy and down to earth. It's not about wanting to shag her, it's just about a sense of admiration more than anything. You know, it's about qualities I admire in someone else.

Like Charlize Theron. Or Jen Aniston (we're on a nickname basis, her and I). Both attractive women, no doubt, and both just give off a good vibe. Two definite girl crushes.

And I know that guys have man crushes too. They probably aren't as open to talking about it as women are. Maybe they get weirded out by it? Feel less, manly?, talking about it? Then again, I had an ex who was obsessed with some wrestling champion guy (I won't say his full name on here, lest he google search him and opps?, happen upon my blog). But clearly, there we had a very serious guy crush situation going on . Perhaps a little too extreme.

Anyway! So...

Ladies, who are your girl crushes?
And guys? C'mon. We know you have them, let's hear it.

35 comments:

brandy said...

Ohhh, girl crushes. Let's see.. Angelina Jolie. She just seems very smart and focused on what the hell she wants out of life. I have a hard time imagining her crying over a broken nail or something petty and I admire that, in anyone- man or woman. She also has really great hair. Plus, I'm pretty sure she could kick my ass. Or let's face it, the ass of any guy I know.

B said...

For me it's Angelina for sure

I agree with brandy

she also flies planes brandy you forgot that LOL

Desiree said...

Okay I have a non-celeb crush... she's a friend who is French and has the most beautiful accent. A former boyfriend called it - he was the first to notice my girl crush on her. ;)

Airam said...

I love Sophia Loren. As for crush ... hmmm ... that's a tough one. There are so many celebrities out there that are fucked up with drugs and partying that I'd rather not be them or even hear about it.

Accidentally Me said...

I have like 40 of those crushes...lol. But Angelina Jolie is not one. Charlize Theron is a good place to start (and looks like my Smoking Hot Roommate:-). Kate Beckinsale, Salma Hayek, Jessica Alba, Sienna Miller, Allesandra Ambrosio and Heidi Klum and all their Victoria's Secret friends, and a couple girl friends of mine, and now I am way off track...hee hee

appletini said...

Ok .... my girl crush is definitely Scarlett Johansson :)

Aaron said...

A guy crush? hahaha! Not hardly.

Princess Extraordinaire said...

Mine are definitely Jenn Aniston and someone I know well... no nanmes....and I am very married:-)

Ruby said...

Guys won't admit they have guy crushes but they SO SO SO do! I have girl crushes too, not famous people really though.

brookem said...

brandy- yeah, i can see it!

b- yup!

desiree- accents are so hot, on anyone!

airam- good choice too!

am- i like kate bekinsale too... oh and of course heidi and her entourage.

appletini- i can see the appeal there too...

aaron- BULLSHIT.

princess- right on!

rubu- totally! guys absolutely have them, they just don't talk about it as freely as us.

Kimberly said...

I used to buy every magazine with Jennifer Aniston on the cover until they started printing crap about her and Brad a couple of years ago, and then I started boycotting Us Weekly and all those cheap paparazzi magazines. But I confess that I have taken her picture to hairstylists on numerous occasions and I am always wishing I had her entire wardrobe. I agree that it's something about the vibe of the person - you just think you could be friends with them!

Trixie said...

oooh mine would be angelina jolie and eva mendez. they are both beautiful ladies.

brookem said...

kimberly- i know what you mean. i totally could picture throwing back a few glasses of wine with jen!

trixie- YES to eva! she's gorgeous!

Joy said...

Hummm, I would say Laila Ali because she has such confidence and very athletic yet very graceful; Jada Pinkett because I can see why men love her, she's a little bad ass and so honest.

egan said...

That's a great shot of Charlize. She's pretty hot. I have a few guy crushes including: Christian Bale and Dustin Diamond.

egan said...

P.S. Happy Birthday Girl! Woohoo, a day to celebrate is here!

brookem said...

joy- good ones as well!

egan- thank you birthday buddy! and same to you!! have fun tonight.
charlize is pretty damn sultry. i love that you manned up and divulged your guy crushes!
SCREECH!!!

egan said...

Screech was a fake one, but Batman is pretty hot. I have others too. May Fourthers Unite!

Thomas said...

I have a crush on Charlize. And not a girl crush.

Joy said...

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egan said...

Bon Anniversaire Brooke!!!

Sally said...

Hey there! Thanks for the birthday wishes -- and happy birthday right back to you! :)

Airam said...

Happy Birthday! Egan ratted you out ... :)

Melissavina said...

I have a total girl crush on Jennifer Aniston. But Charleeeze sort of cheesed me off when she destroyed the last few episodes of Arrested Development.

I also love Gwyneth Paltrow. A lot.

So many guys I know have guy crushes on Val Kilmer, that one I'll never understand.

Get Trished said...

Christina Applegate and Cameron Diaz. Maybe because I love the movie The Sweetest Thing. Eva Mendez yes, and Kate Beckinsale.

Some men do admit their man crushes. One of my friends developed one on the hot Montgomery Gentry (I think it's Troy Gentry...) after we met them at a concert here. And there's always the friend of their's who they love hanging out with and get excited when that friend calls for happy hour and such. That, my friends, is proof of a man crush.

m said...

Happy birthday dear! Angelina Jolie and Kate Beckinsale.:)

Beth said...

Kate Hudson is mine - she always seems so smiley and happy and I like that in a person :o)

brookem said...

egan- did you hear dustin diamond went on a rampage against his fellow contestants on fit club? ya, youtube it. he's out of control.

thomas- understandably so. but your boy crush is....?

joy!- i love the song, and im loving your new, fraggle rock?! picture!

egan- your bday wishes just keep coming to me, and im loving it! right back to you!

sally- you're welome! i was having trouble getting it to post to your site; glad it worked! hope your bday was fab!

airam- indeed he did! THANK YOU!

melissavina- hmm, didn't see her in that. i guess that's good because i can keep her in a good light! gwyneth is a good one too, and she's with the coldplay singer, so i'd like to be her, really. eh, val. weird name anyway.

get trished- thanks for stopping by! TOTALLY christina applegate, post married with children. love that movie too and think she's just great.

m- thank you!

beth- that's one i definitely forgot! love her.

Ally said...

Feliz Cumpleanos!! I hope you had a wonderful day (whenever it was)!!

The last girl crush I can remember having was in college. My Spanish teacher in Salamanca, Spain always looked so gorgeous, put-together, and calm. She exuded class, style, and beauty.

Michi said...

yes, yes! I used to have a huge crush on Katie Holmes. Right now, I'm totally hot for Penelope Cruz, especially after seeing Volver!

Carrie said...

A haha - my girl crush is Dana Scully from The X Files. Not Gillian Anderson, although she is quite lovely, but Dana Scully. The first woman I saw on television (I'm only 22 so in my recent history I guess) who showed me that smart = sexy. Def. my girl crush for the ages.

Mel said...

I'm late in the commenting here.... Kate Beckinsale & Scarlet Johanssan. I don't make out with my roomates but if I lived with either of them I might. Okay, so I might just ask Scarlet if I could wear her clothes and be seen in public with her...but really they are so hot.

p.s. men totally have man crushes they are just dirty liars about it when they deny. Why do men have to be so awkward about these things?

Thomas said...

Probably have a boy crush on Johnny Depp.

Andrew said...

I have dozens of girl crushes!

radioactive girl said...

I am totally late, but just found you at Amandas and came to see who you are and what you are about. I have a total girl crush on Neve Campbell, and the singer Pink. I think guys don't admit it because once you use the word "crush" they start thinking sexual.