Thursday, April 05, 2007

Mr. Right

Ruby tagged me to do a fiver about myself. Well, I've switched it up a little bit. Because I've already done 42 about myself, and then 58 more. And I think even more after that, and really, aren't you sick of learning stuff about me? Maybe eventually I'll get to it. For now, I decided to switch it up and list five things that I look for my Mr. Perfect to have/possess/wear/do/smell etc.
(This list is in no way in it's full entirety here. And note the Mr. "Perfect," which is the point of this.)

♥ He has to be funny. Have a really good sense of humor, make me laugh, like, a lot. Be witty, and sarcastic. Be able to people watch, and judge with the best of them. Ergo, he must not take himself, or others, too seriously. If I trip and fall, I would rather him first make sure I'm okay, and then laugh at and with me, rather than being all overly concerned, serious-like about the whole scene. And he must like funny movies, actors, and old school SNL skits. Or at least know who starred in some of the best of the best. Any reference he can make from Chris Farley, Adam Sandler, or Stuart (I know it's Mad TV) would really earn him some points. And turn me on.

♥ Spontaneity. And a take charge attitude. None of this, girl: "What do you want to do Friday?, boy: "I dunno what do you wanna do?" or, "you decide, I'll do whatever, I have absolutely no opinion." Screw that noise. I need a go getter. Someone who knows what he wants, and goes after it. Makes things happen. Surprises. Spontaneous acts of romance. Here and there; I'm not saying it's a must, all of the time. But some of the time, yeah. Absolutely necessary.

♥ Plays well with others. Can easily go with the flow. Can deal with a change in agenda. A bump in the road per se, is just that, not some huge issue. Easygoing and carefree. Doesn't upset easily. Shares well. Does unto others…. type thing. Does little things for the woman he loves, ie: buys hot sauce for her even though he hates it, leaves little notes in the bathroom, a goodnight phone call, checks to make sure she has her cell phone and favorite lip gloss for a night out, brushes the snow off of her car. These things, mean something. They mean a lot.

♥ Has passion. About me, obviously, but about other things too. Like music for example. Going to concerts, playing some instrument, seeking out new bands. Or sports. Going to games with friends, watching Sunday football. Basketball brackets. Or art. Likes to write, or appreciates a good book, and maybe likes museums. Or food. Can cook, or likes to maybe, or wants to learn. Loves a good steak. Likes/wants children. Is good with them. Is a good friend. Has a bunch of them, and is known for his accountability to them. Basically, has a passion for something outside of the relationship. Has plans and is busy with things, not just all consuming and conforming to being in a relationship.

♥ Family. Appreciates a good, happy family. Treats his mom well, and women in his life. Wants a family. Wants kids. My family likes him. He's easy to get along with and fits in with my family, and friends. I can leave him at a family party and know he can hold his own with my uncle who wears sunglasses indoors.

♥ Knows how to have a good time. Appreciates a night in, on the couch watching a movie pretty much as equal to going out on the town with friends. Likes to have guys nights. Drinks caffeine, and beer. Is open to trying new things. New places. Loves old places, hole in the walls. His idea of a good time can be just doing nothing, with me. Thinks I'm great.

♥ Can talk me out of mood. Or a funk. And will try to get my funk. Will give me time to cool off if I need it, but not put up with my crap if I'm being silly, overreacting, which I will. Can put me in my place. Will take care of me if I'm sick. Dependable. My go-to guy. For help with my car (I can deal with it on my own, but it doesn't mean I don't want his help anyway). Understands me. And just gets me. We get each other.

♥ Is a kind, genuine guy. Knows it, but is humble. Doesn't have a freakish temper. Doesn't drink a whole bottle of whatever-his-choice-may-be in one sitting. Can drink and hold his own, but knows his limits. Takes good care of himself, and others. Is a good guy. Wholeheartedly.

And that was more than five, I know. And I could seriously go on to probably 28, maybe 32. Lest this make me appear overly nit-picky, let me just state for the record, I am picky. I do admit to that. But I also know what I want. And what I don't want. I know no one is perfect, but the Mr. Perfect for me will end up being my Mr. Right. And one of these days I hope to find him out there.

**And thank you Mel for the "♥" tutorial-I owe you girl.**

27 comments:

Haley-O said...

I hear it's great to write out EXACTLY what you want in a guy....If you do, you may just get that guy! ;) I hope you find him. :)

B said...

my guy is good but he doesn't have all that- I don't know anyone that perfect,LOL but it's nice to want it right ladies! seek and you shall find!

brookem said...

haley-o--i hear the same thing! ha, i can only hope, right?

b--i can dream! :)

Aaron said...

I was about to ask where to sign up... until the "get my funk" part. ;^)

brookem said...

aaron- ha, come on! im sure you can understand a girl (the actress'?) funk.

e.b. said...

For the record I don't think those are picky. I think they make a genuine person and someone intersting and fun to be around. If that is picky then I am in trouble.

brookem said...

thank you eb! :)

Kimberly said...

I agree with e.b. - this list sounds like a great guy and a lot of fun and someone you can be yourself around.
As for "reading the funk" - even if he just notices something's wrong and asks me if this is a "leave me alone" funk or "tell me to snap out of it" funk or "let me cry on your shoulder" funk, that would be appreciated. Half the time I don't even know what I need but it's nice to be asked.

brookem said...

kimberly- i couldnt agree more about the funk!

Trixie said...

i agree and all those things on your list are great qualities to possess for your future mate.

its ok to be picky as you know exactly what you want in your guy and will not settle for less.

hope mr right finds YOU! :)

brookem said...

trixie- aww, thank YOU!

Accidentally Me said...

I don't think you are being overly picky, either. If you can't find someone you genuinely enjoy being around all the time and that makes you a better person, then what is the point?

Picky is good!

brookem said...

am- right on sista!

The Diva's Thoughts said...

I love those points! If you fid this man that has all those qualities, don't let him go!

Princess Extraordinaire said...

That's a good list - when you find one like that will yo send him to me, too?

brookem said...

the diva's thoughts- thanks for stopping by!

princess extraordinaire- thanks to you for stopping by too! and like i said, twins i tell ya! if i find a set ill let you know!

Melissavina said...

My current "Mr Perfect" is very good at talking me out of my moods... and lord knows he does it often. I'm lucky. Good one for your list. When I have to come up with one again (and I probably will) I'm adding it!

BionicBuddha said...

Good Luck...the world is full of opportunity. I am certain such an interesting woman with all your positive qualities would likely be turning down many candidates each day!

MrWriteNow said...

Brookem, Brookem, Brookem.....helo-LO! This is me. It's sooo obvious!

Carrie said...

Fantastic list there - especially the 'funny' point. Perhaps it's wisdom that comes with age, but funny men beat gorgeous (but dumb as brick) men any and every day of the week!!!

Airam said...

Great, wonderful, amazing list! Couldn't have written a better one myself!

Beth said...

I agree with the others, I don't think you're being picky at all. Although in my embittered state of mind at present I think you're being pretty freakin' optimistic!!!

But thats good...optimism is good and I think if you don't know what you want, you don't stand a hope in hell of finding it, so having it all written down is definitely a good thing!

Ruby said...

I hope you find him brooke! In fact, I hope you find him and he has a brother just as great that you can send my way!

Joe said...

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Mel said...

ha they look great!!! It was my favorite little HTML trick because I was always doing this; <3 lol

If I had a Mr. Perfect list I'd really be single forever ha

Jessica said...

I second all of those. I also like men with bad teeth and control issues.

Jenna_Russ said...

hi dear! :) i've been meaning to comment and tell you this before, but i just love your blog...and this list is especially awesome! i think that i actually might write a similar list on my own blog...would it be okay if i linked to you? let me know...i'd like to spread the word about your mad writing skills! :)

take care!

:) jenna